Stay at home mom.

It can mean so many different things to different people.

Some think it's an excuse for moms to be lazy slobs. (Furthest from the truth)

Some think it's the only option because one didn't go to college. (When little do they know most of us have degrees ranging from associates to masters.)

Some think that being a sahm only consists of playing with adorable kids and babies all day...

What many people fail to realize is that for every family being a stay at home parent (in my case I am speaking of mothers) will look different. Their reasonings behind choosing to be a sahm will be different too.

As for me and my house we found that it was the best way for our children to be brought up. For them to feel safe, secure, loved, and be taught from a young age about Jesus.
Obviously there are working moms, part time working moms, work at home moms, and sahms. All which have their own level of stress.
I am considered a part time work at home mom if you want to get technical. I have the honor to bring up two little boys who love jesus and have energy for days in a single moment. I get to live out my childhood dream of being a mommy. However motherhood isn't quite how I imaged. Let's be honest, adulthood isn't quite like I imaged as a 14 yr old girl dreaming of her adult life and what it would be like.
I am blessed beyond measure. I am thankful for this beautiful messy life I was given to live out. However being thankful and blessed doesn't disregard that life isn't sometimes hard.
Some think or say how can you possibly be so busy? You're a sahm. Well.... let me tell you a glimpse into my typical day... I'll use today as an example.

Wake up 7am sometimes 6am.
Make coffee
Get the kids drinks
Get kids food
Pack snacks for hubby bring him his coffee
Clean up the food my kids have destructed and barely eaten.
Go to sit and drink my own coffee... one child is thirsty again.
Get child drink
Other needs a diaper change
Now thirsty child has to use the potty... which means he needs help wiping...
Now both are clean
Go to drink coffee...
Sits down and now kids are fighting over something.. correct children
Sits down to drink coffee. It's now cold.
Reheats coffee
Unloads dish washer
Drinks half of it and finally gets to read a little bit of my bible and devotionals.
It's now 9am.
Kids are hungry again... makes snacks
Puts a load of laundry in dryer from night before.
Bathe one child
Bathe the other
Cuts their hair
Gets them dressed and gets them more drinks.
It's now 10am.
Throws a load of laundry of sheets in the washer.
I myself need to get ready for the day.
10:10am finds children's shoes

1030am finally gets shoes on children
Makes to go sippies.
Loads up the truck...
11am. Heading to port orange to run errends.
Makes a return, gets kids food because gosh darn it they're hungry again and it's now lunch time. 12pm.
Children barely eat food..
Runs errends at Sam's club gets drinks for the business. (Mind you they're heavy cases of water and Gatorade so it's a workout!)
Makes a return at the mall and gets mother a mothersday gift. (While babywearing since malachi fell asleep)
Gets home... it's now 230pm
Lays sleeping malachi in bed holding my breath hoping he stays asleep. He did praise Jesus.
Gets Emmanuel situated
3pm Sits down to rest.. and types this..

And now on the to do list is for the rest of the day... 

load dishwasher
Cook dinner
Clean up the tiny legos malachi dumped all over the living room this morning.
Switches loads of laundry and folds them. Put new sheets on beds.
Clean dishes from dinner
Fight with children to eat....

Serves hubby dinner

Eats dinner myself
Fight with them to go to sleep....
9pm kids asleep 930pm I'll likely crash.

That's just a day in my house. Yesterday was even crazier x5. If you read this you must really love me to care enough. 🤣🙌😂

To all the moms out there. Whether you work outside, inside, part time, full time, or "stay at home".... here's to you! Being a mom is HARD work. Mentally mostly. Physically its tiering too. I know I wouldn't trade it for anything. Some choose to be sahms.
Some want to be.
Some wish to be. Some hate the idea. Some do it because it is what makes the most sense for your family. Whether it be financially or emotionally.

Being a sahm is more then just sitting on the couch all day watching netflix.

We have to teach our children right from wrong. Socialize our children.
Teach our kids preschool things. Potty train them.
We raise tiny humans and we care for the home.
My new favorite term is that I'm a home maker.  Not a stay at home mom.
I make our house a home. I create a welcoming environment for my hard working husband to come home to. I meal plan, meal prep, grocery shop, clean, teach, love, learn, and am constantly growing and changing. I am a hard working mother, wife, and home maker.

I am blessed.

You are blessed.

Take a minute to stop and pause. Think of ALL that you do. Next time someone says something negative to you about being a sahm or you simply wonder if your doing enough for the family as a SAHM.... 

Look at your list. Then ask yourself are you contributing to your family? The answer is HECK yes you are. 

You are making your house a home. You are setting the thermostat to your home. What's the temperture of your home?

Is it welcoming and peaceful?
Is it welcoming and a little crazy? Usually mine lol.
Or is it high stress and high tempers. I've been there all too many times. Take some time out for yourself. YOUR not selfish to need a break. You do contribute to your home. You do make a difference. Think of all that wouldn't get done if you didn't do it.

That alone should show you that what your doing matters.
I love all the mamas out there who are good moms. 💓💗💓👊🤜💪 we are stronger together.